I had to buy a used car for a friend today. Long and not relevant story of why it had to be me, but it’s been causing me stress and anxiety for weeks as I came to realize this task was going to fall to me…

You see, buying cars is not one of my strengths, but it is for my husband.

I’m not beating myself up for not being as good as him at this. He’s not making me feel small for not being able to do this on my own.

When we focus on our weaknesses, we can fall into cycles of blame and criticism.

But… when we make use of our strengths in relationships together we become a powerful team. We get shit done.

When we express appreciation for our partners’ strengths, they feel valued and will reorganize their busy work day to get said shit done, even when they really don’t really want to either.

So thank you babe, I love and appreciate you so much! You made my day so much easier. You make my life so much better.

Are you focusing on strengths or weaknesses in your relationships? How are you and your partner(s) using your strengths in your relationships?